From Minimalist Wedding to Minimalism in Marriage
Ever stared at a wedding catalog and felt your wallet shiver in terror?
Welcome to the overpriced wedding industry, where the cake costs a fortune, and the flowers are practically made of gold.
But what if there’s a way to tie the knot and start your marriage without all the glitz, glamour, and price tags with more zeros than a Hollywood blockbuster?
This is where a minimalist approach to weddings and marriage can help.
And this will be a funny topic for me. Since I am pretty biased.
Because, regarding weddings, I am the fish that goes against the stream.
Nevertheless, I will use my full range of self-discipline to stay objective for this article and discuss…
- What is a minimalist wedding
- Are minimalist weddings just a trend or a prelude to a lifestyle?
- How to say “I do” with less but more meaning
- Minimalism in your marriage: how to start on the simple foot
- How can minimalism shape financial harmony in marriage
- Minimalism as a partner when babies come along.
Intrigued? Then let’s get started…
What Is a Minimalist Wedding?
A minimalist wedding is no wedding at all—the end.
No, just kidding, but there is some truth to it.
It’s based on the history of weddings and how the wedding industry, with some impressive marketing schemes, changed the public perception from the 1930s onward.
I learned about this when I listened to the Jordan Harbinger show a few months back, where they dissected the wedding industry.
Right now, I bet you would think that a diamond ring goes along with a wedding and is tradition, right? Well, wrong.
While exchanging rings dates back to Roman times, diamonds were not commonly used.
The rings were often plain bands or featured other precious stones.
And then, in 1948, De Beers launched an advertising campaign with the slogan “A Diamond Is Forever.”
They linked diamonds to eternal love and engagement, making them synonymous with commitment and romance.
The campaign was highly successful, exploiting couples’ desires for a perfect symbol of their love.
They even guided how much a person “should” spend on a ring, recommending a month or two of the giver’s salary.
Many aspects of the “perfect wedding” have been shaped more by modern marketing and cultural forces than by deep historical roots.
Another one is the white wedding dress.
It’s widely seen as a timeless tradition and was popularized by Queen Victoria in the 19th century.
However, before her, brides often wore their best dress, regardless of color.
But today, the norm is the maximalist and thus expensive wedding.
The notion that a wedding must be extravagant is more a product of social expectations and media influence than a historical necessity.
So actually, a minimalist wedding is the true traditional wedding before 1948 and Queen Victoria, unless you are sufficiently blue-blooded with an aristocratic background.
Before that, usually, the aristocracy had grand and public weddings to display wealth, power, and social status and to show their new political alliances created through marriage.
So, a minimalist wedding is about cutting through the noise and focusing on what matters.
It’s not about doing less but about doing more with less.
It reflects values, a statement of what you consider essential, and choosing quality over quantity.
What does this mean?
It’s fewer decorations (e.g., elaborate floral arrangements) embracing simplicity.
And every detail has its place and purpose, nothing unnecessary.
It’s also intimacy over grandiosity.
Remember that crowded party where you hardly knew anyone?
Minimalist weddings opt for a close-knit circle and sharing your day with those who truly matter.
It also doesn’t have to take place in a castle or a grand hotel to pretend to be aristocracy for a day.
Instead, it can be a garden you love or a family home filled with memories.
So, it’s about finding beauty in simplicity, like enjoying a homemade meal at a five-star restaurant.
Are Minimalist Weddings Just a Trend or a Prelude to a Lifestyle?
First, let’s acknowledge that wedding trends are like waves on the beach – always changing.
And as you can see in the beginning, a pretty large industry is behind it.
This industry had a market size of 70.7 billion in 2022 (source).
Remember when cupcakes replaced traditional wedding cakes or barn weddings were all the rage? Trends come and go.
However, a true minimalist wedding should be different.
They’re not just about swapping one fancy thing for another.
They’re about stripping away the non-essentials.
Still, it’s perfectly possible for a wedding planner service company to market one as minimalistic while not being minimalistic in a true sense.
In that case, it wouldn’t be an authentic minimalist wedding.
So could it be a prelude to a lifestyle?
Sure, why not.
Stripping away the non-essentials doesn’t have to stop at the wedding.
In fact, for many couples, it becomes a way of life.
What happens when you’ve already decided that your wedding, one of the biggest days (that’s what they say) of your life, doesn’t need all the extra frills and fuss?
You could apply that same thinking to your everyday life.
It’s like tasting a new dish at a restaurant and then craving it all the time.
Imagine your home, not cluttered with things you don’t need but filled with space and serenity.
Picture your calendar, not jam-packed with obligations but offering time for what you love.
Think of relationships, not shallow and fleeting but deep and meaningful.
So a minimalist wedding could be a first step on that journey.
A Trend or a Truth?
To sum up, is the minimalist wedding just a trend, or is it a prelude to a lifestyle?
It’s likely both.
For some, it might be a fashionable choice, as ephemeral as a beautiful sunset.
But for others, it might be the sunrise of a new way of living, full of intention, focus, and joy.
How to Say “I Do” with Less But More Meaning?
The answer to that may not be as complex as you think.
It’s not about depriving yourself of the magic of your “big day”. It’s about enhancing it.
Let’s look at how you can get to the heart of what matters.
First, ask yourself, “What makes a wedding special?”
Is it the towering cake, the lavish venue, the endless guest list?
Or is it something more profound, like the vows, the connection, the love?
When you begin to see the wedding as a beautiful frame for the masterpiece that is your love, things change.
You’re not taking away; you’re adding focus, like the spotlight on the lead performers in a play.
And if you get deep into it, you may even realize that a wedding is not required to frame your love.
But let’s stay with the wedding a bit longer and not digress into my bias…
How do you do it?
How do you craft a wedding that’s simple but rich in meaning?
You want to pick what matters.
Do you really need that five-tier cake, or would a simple, delicious one that you both love be just as sweet?
Then you want only to invite those who count and choose a simple but beautiful place.
Next, your vows don’t have to sound like a Shakespearean sonnet (unless you want them to).
Speak from the heart, and your words will resonate like the lyrics of a song written just for you.
Minimalism in Your Marriage: How to Start on the Simple Foot
Okay, you didn’t listen to me, and you did actually marry. Now you are in the honeymoon phase.
This is supposed to be all sunshine, laughter, and shared dreams.
Still, what happens when reality sets in, and you find yourselves navigating the daily dance of life together?
Carrying the minimalist philosophy into your daily lives after the honeymoon phase and home isn’t just a trend; it’s a harmonious duet that can make everyday living a delightful dance without needing an affair to fill what’s lacking.
Let’s explore how:
- Decluttering as a Duo
- Start fresh: Think of your shared space as a blank canvas. What are the essential items that make it your home? It’s like a garden; you plant only the flowers you love.
- Declutter together: It isn’t just about stuff; it’s about shaping your space. Doing it together is like cooking a meal – it tastes better when you share the process.
- Financial Harmony: A Minimalist Approach
- Talk about it: Money talks can be awkward but essential.
- Set common goals: Saving for a home? Planning a trip? Clear, shared goals are the signposts on your journey together, guiding you along a clear path.
- Time Well Spent
- Prioritize connection: Make time for each other. It’s as simple (and profound) as choosing to watch the sunset together over watching a TV show. It’s the small moments that weave the fabric of your relationship.
- Say no to overcommitting: Every time you say yes to something, you’re saying no to something else. It’s like filling your plate at a buffet – choose what you love, and savor it.
- Growing Together
- Embrace shared values: Your shared values are the compass that guides you. Keep returning to them, like a favorite book that offers wisdom whenever you open it.
- Celebrate the simple joys: Find happiness in the little things, like a walk in the rain or a home-cooked meal. It’s like finding shells on the beach – each one a treasure.
- Embrace Change Together
- Adapt and grow: Life will throw curveballs. Embracing minimalism makes you more flexible and resilient, like a tree bending with the wind but never breaking.
How Can Minimalism Shape Financial Harmony in Marriage?
I picked “Financial Harmony” from above to dive deeper into it since this is often a marriage topic that can lead to divorce.
So what if minimalism could be the melody that makes this risk almost vanish?
Let’s investigate how minimalism can shape financial harmony in marriage.
Minimalism isn’t just about having less. It’s about making intentional choices. That’s one of several minimalism principles.
You can consider it your financial diet, nourishing you with what you need and skipping the empty calories.
Finance is about spending on what aligns with your values and avoiding unnecessary debt.
It’s like choosing a home-cooked meal over fast food.
That’s usually healthier and more satisfying unless you fry fried meatballs and haven’t walked more than 10 feet in the last six months.
Creating a Minimalist Budget: A Joint Adventure
It’s a good idea to start sharing your goals to create a minimalist budget.
What are you both working towards? A house, travel, security?
Setting common goals is akin to choosing a destination for a journey together – it’s more fun when you agree on where you’re going. That’s kind of common sense, though.
Then there are needs vs. wants which can easily be confused.
So you may want to get together and help each other distinguish between what you need and what you merely want.
Here you want to focus on what nourishes your relationship and shared life.
Avoiding Debt: The Minimalist’s Superpower
Avoiding debt is pretty simple at first glance and can prevent you from getting into debt.
You just have to live within your means.
It’s like only filling your plate with what you can eat; spend only what you can afford.
And if you already have debt, you want to prioritize and pay off debts.
Here you want to choose a strategy that works for you, whether the snowball method or something else and celebrate victories together.
Investing with Purpose
As important as shared values are in a marriage or any other relationship, the same applies to your investments.
So you want to choose investments with your values and goals in mind.
In addition, you want to educate yourselves and combine it with professional guidance.
Embracing Simplicity: A Path to Peace
As you may have noted in several articles here on Minimal Angle, I almost always come back to the core principles of minimalism.
I will do this here again with simplicity.
And simplicity in the context of financial harmony in a marriage is keeping things simple.
This means avoiding complex financial products that are hard to understand (by design).
In addition, you want to do regular check-ins.
So you want to talk about money as you would for a date night.
It’s part of your relationship’s health check, and openness can prevent minor issues from becoming big problems.
Minimalism isn’t about scarcity. It’s about the abundance of what truly matters.
Minimalism as a Partner When Babies Come Along
When babies come along, life gets more colorful…Well, let’s be honest, a tad more complicated (as I’ve heard).
And if you are not careful, you turn yourself into a “maximalist” in no time…
But what if minimalism could be a gentle guide through this new chapter?
What if it could make the complex simple, the busy calm, the everyday extraordinary?
Let’s take a closer look at how minimalism can be maintained and adapted to the arrival of children and the benefits it can bring to family life.
A Room of One’s Own: Simple Spaces
- Less but lovingly chosen: Who says a nursery has to be filled to the brim? A minimalist approach focuses on quality over quantity.
- Space to grow: Children need space to explore, imagine, and play. A clutter-free room is like an open field full of possibilities. You will destroy your feet early enough with Legos spread over the floor.
Minimalist Parenting: Less Stress, More Joy
- Focus on connection: Minimalism is about being present. It’s spending time rather than spending money. It’s building a fort together rather than buying the latest toy. It’s like cooking together – messy, fun, and memorable.
- Saying no to over-scheduling: Between playdates, classes, and activities, life can become a whirlwind. A good protection can be simply choosing less and saying “no” to more.
Family Finances: More Little Ones, Same Principles
- Budgeting for baby: Babies often bring expenses. A minimalist approach helps you focus on what’s essential, like a map guiding you through a new landscape. Here you can also distinguish the wants from the needs.
- Planning for the future: It’s never too early to think about education and the future, and a minimalist approach to finances can keep you grounded.
Simplifying Daily Routines: A Dance of Love
- Meal times made easy: To make meal times easier, instead of a complicated meal, choose a simple, nutritious meal.
- Less stuff, more fun: Playtime doesn’t need to be complicated. You can turn a cardboard box into a castle or a spoon into a drum. It’s about imagination, like turning clouds into stories. The kids’ creativity is the minimalist’s friend.
When babies come along, minimalism doesn’t have to step out; it can be a partner, a guide, or a friend.
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